Loving and being loved grows from that attachment. Death breaks the attachment to the one we loved in this physical world. Understanding the specific ways we were attached to our loved ones helps us understand the unique story of our loss.
Time after time, I have seen the look of relief from my clients when I suggest that grief is related to attachment and love. “How long does grief last?” I am frequently asked. “How much did you love the person in your life who died?” I reply. At that moment, grief can be seen as a story of love rather than just a painful experience to get over.