The answers to this question are important in understanding our loss. I hear responses such as, “He really got my sense of humor, ” or “She always thought I had great ideas,” or “He understood my family better than anyone.”
To understand the story of our grief, it helps to identify the specific ways we were attached to the one who died. Thus, we miss the person who has died, and we also miss who we were with them. We may not experience ourselves in the same way with anyone else.