When innocent people are murdered, whether across the ocean or in our own neighborhoods, shock and sorrow mix to create an uneasy state of mind for all of us.
These violent events may cause an understandable concern about your own physical safety. Your own grief also may be stirred as you watch footage of the victims’ grieving friends and relatives, particularly if your loved one died from a traumatic cause.
Those who grieve traumatic losses caused by sudden death, accidents or violent acts know the experience of shock when your loved one is gone in an instant. Three elements create shock: the death was unexpected, you were unprepared and there was nothing you could do to prevent it.
Shock is both biological and psychological and has a life of its own. Like many aspects of grief, the experience of shock and the lingering anxiety may feel “crazy.” It is not. Anxiety can persist long after the loved one has died or the tragic event has faded from the news, as the mind tries to reconcile a heightened lack of safety with daily living.
Tend to your grief with special care during times of national and international trauma.