Interview with Radio Host

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Dear Readers, Here is a link to listen to an interview I did with Francesca Luca of Boston Radio WATD 95.5. This show will air today November 20 at 8:30 p.m. EST. If you are unable to listen tonight, check back for archived shows on Francesca’s website http://talkwithfrancesca.com. … [Read more...]

Breathe

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A woman whose spouse recently died stated her goal for coming to therapy: “I do not want to cry every time someone asks me how I am doing. I am a very private person, and it embarrasses me when tears flow and I am in a public place with others.” Many who grieve are open about their loss and … [Read more...]

Writers Who Grieve

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As a young clinician and grief therapist (and bereaved parent), I read every clinical book I could find about the experience of grief and loss. I believed I could find solutions to the anguish my clients and I felt by reading the experts in the field. As my understanding about grief changed from a … [Read more...]

Moments of Grace

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A widow recently described a trip she took shortly after her husband’s death. “I wanted to have a private retreat, so I booked an Airbnb in a small town in the mountains. I expected to be alone for several days to mourn in private, and for the most part I was alone. But the owner of the cabin came … [Read more...]

Bearing Witness

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The legal definition of bearing witness means to attest to something that is true. If you are called to court to testify, you bear witness to the truth of what you saw or what you know. If someone is telling you their story of loss, they are bearing witness to you about the truth of their … [Read more...]

Another Layer of Grief

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A grieving man described the sadness he experienced due to the behavior of some family members after his wife’s death. “My adult step-children asked me about our wills before the day of her funeral had ended. I could not believe what I was hearing. How could they be so insensitive on this of all … [Read more...]

The Business of Loss

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A bereaved spouse recently described feeling overwhelmed by the amount of business she needed to manage after her husband’s death. “I am overwhelmed by paperwork. I am trying to deal with probate, close accounts, pay all of the medical bills, get the utilities transferred to my name and a dozen … [Read more...]

The Shadow of Suicide

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The recent reports of well-known celebrities dying from suicide have brought this topic to our national attention. The statistics are stunning – 43,000 suicide deaths in 2016 make it the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S., and in the 15-34 age group, the second leading cause of death. These … [Read more...]

A Broken Heart

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“My heart is broken” is a lament often spoken by those who mourn. While that description is poetic, rather than literal, what is the physical impact on the heart and the rest of the body when a loss occurs? The day after the funeral and burial of former First Lady Barbara Bush, her husband was … [Read more...]

No Words

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A bereaved father whose daughter died in a car accident described an experience to me that frightened him. “It was a surge of feelings that started in my feet and traveled through my whole body and came out in a primal sound that did not seem like my voice,” he said. Anthropologist Renato … [Read more...]