Grief and the Holidays

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Those who mourn often wish they could avoid this time of year. They wish they could start a nap before Thanksgiving and wake up in January. The holidays create a collision between cultural expectations of celebration and the personal reality of sorrow. If your loved one died during the holiday … [Read more...]

Grief and Depression Part 2

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Grief and depression can intersect in ways that cause confusion for those who mourn. It can be difficult for mourners to know if they are also depressed during their time of sorrow. •    Some who grieve may have experienced depression prior to their loss or are already depressed at the time of … [Read more...]

Grief and Depression Part 1

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There has been much debate in the mental health profession through the years about the differences and similarities between grief and depression. Changes in eating and sleeping, low energy, decreased concentration and decreased pleasure are true for both grief and depression. How are grief and … [Read more...]

Care, Not Cure


The Journal of the American Medical Association reported several years ago that if an individual continues to experience the stages of grief after six months and has not reached the final stage of acceptance, they should consider getting an evaluation and possible treatment. A summary of this … [Read more...]

Grief Exhaustion


Columnist Maureen Dowd recently commented on Vice President Joe Biden’s possible decision to run for president. She wrote that Joe Biden has a dilemma: “How does he honor the wish of his late son, Beau, to run when the death of Beau has left him so depleted he may not be able to run?” “I have … [Read more...]

What Was, What Will Be, What Might Have Been


This year I have experienced the death of my uncle and the birth of another grandson. The day I am writing this post is the 35th birthday of my son Ryan who died in 1981. My Uncle Frank was my last relative in the generation before me. He was deeply loved by his family and all who knew him. He … [Read more...]